"If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the
outcome of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the
enemy, then for every victory gained you will also suffer a
defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will
succumb in every battle."
Sun Tzu, Chinese military strategist and philosopher
This book documents the decade long ordeal of domestic abuse I suffered, and aims not only to tell my story, but also to convey a message to all others in the same situation: you are not alone. It is currently a work in progress, but when it is finally ready and published, check back here. You can use control+D to bookmark this page.
Parts of this book will make for disturbing reading, but I refuse to suffer in silence as that's what perpetrators of this vile behaviour want. For this reason they isolate you from your support network and resort to brutal tactics to prevent you from telling the truth. But I revolted against it and threw this vile women out of my life. This book will tell my story.
If you really wish to see just how my former wife behaves in the street (yes, in public, in a busy London Street, in front of my daughters, see the below video. ***Warning: Contains offensive language!*** I f this demonstrates how she behaves in public, imagine her in private behind closed doors. And remember, abusers want their victims to suffer in silence. I will not grant her this wish!!!
A Real Life Abuse video from Boxing Day, 2018.
How the UK Child Maintainance Service leaves parents homeless and suicidal and children devestated. UK Family law is an abusers' charter.
And just wait until my own film is published on the same day as the book. It is about time an honest man spoke out!!!!
At the start of the school year of 2021, my younger daughter advised me not to go to a school parent's event as her mother was attending! I warned, in no uncertain terms, that if she assaulted or threatened me (In front of the parents and school staff!) I would restrain her until the police arrived - and give evidence against her! I would have pressed charges, and this would have remained on her DBS (Disclosure and barring service) record for years to come, with serious consequences for her career. And incidentally, I am security trained and know how to do this lawfully. In retrospect, I wish that I could have done this during the marriage and given her a criminal record - but on the first occasion she physically assaulted me, on valentines' day 2008, my older daughter was a four month old baby.
As we English say, a picture tells a thousand words....
If my ex-wife's personailty could be photographed, this is my impression of what it would would look like..
Above: the definition of poetic justice and what it would look like.
